Differences in the monitoring of teenage children, according to family type and income, have narrowed. For example in 1994, 14–15 year olds from single parent families were more likely to be out late without their parents knowing where compared with two parent families, but by 2005 this difference had disappeared.read more at Today’s Parents 'Not To Blame' For Teenage Problem Behavior: "
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A team led by Professor Frances Gardner from the Department of Social Policy and Social Work at the University of Oxford found no evidence of a general decline in parenting. Their findings show that differences in parenting according to family structure and income have narrowed over the last 25 years. However, the task of parenting is changing and could be getting increasingly stressful, particularly for some groups.
. . .The research highlights a different set of challenges for parents compared with 25 years ago. Young people now are reliant on their parents for longer, with higher proportions of 20–24 year olds living with their parents. Many more remain in some kind of education or training into their late teens. In addition, the development of new technology, such as mobile phones and the Internet, has created new monitoring challenges for parents.
'Today’s parents have had to develop skills that are significantly different and arguably more complex than 25 years ago, and this could be increasing the stress involved in parenting,’ Professor Gardner said.
Sunday, August 2, 2009
Today’s Parents 'Not To Blame' For Teenage Problem Behavior
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I have seen many parents that lose touch with their kids at age 15 or 16. The kids still live with the parents but never see them and never talk to them. As i have lived in both the US and France i have seen much less of this in Europe which seems to be very family oriented.
ReplyDeleteI think some of that is natural. It's about growing up and making that hard separation from safety of guardians.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, consider how busy so many parents have to be making a living. It's so very hard for them to have the time and energy for the kids.
That doesn't mean they should let their kids be spoiled and allow them to do what they want at such a young age... Having a kid is a responsibility and you take that responsibility on when you become a parent.
ReplyDeleteYou got that right. So the parents responsibility is to take of the kid and help them become independent adults.
ReplyDeleteAny thoughts about the kid's responsibility?
It is not the kids fault if he falls down the wrong path in usual cases it is the parents' lack of attention, care or maljudgement. The kids responsibility is to once their old enough go on with their life but it is mainly the parents' responsibility to help make that happen.
ReplyDeleteDo you mean to say that a kid is not responsible for the consequences of his decisions?
ReplyDeleteIf it is, sorry but I don't buy it. Anyone who is old enough to go outside, is old enough to be accountable for their own decisions. The further away from the house they go, the more they shoul d be responsible.
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Yes but if they make mistakes which do happen and no parent or guardian is there for them they usually fall deeper into a hole of mistakes without help. Its harder without parents. Lets say for whatever reason a kid left a foster home by himself at age 12. I am sorry but we would not lead the most prestigious life.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, sometimes it's exacltythe kids that are left to themselves that learn to make better decisions faster.
ReplyDeleteBut on the third hand, if they get unlucky you are exactly right. If there is no one around to protect them from mistakes, it can get pretty ugly, pretty fast.
On the fourth hand, the best way to learn is to make mistakes and learn not to make the same mistake again....
Without parents kids are more prone to making mistakes and thats it. Luck plays out to see if these mistakes are bad enough to send you into a worse state. At the same time if responsible parents were present not as many mistakes would be made.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, Hillary Clinton wrote a book a while ago that says It Takes A Village.
ReplyDeletefrom wikipedia.
It Takes a Village: And Other Lessons Children Teach Us is a book by then-First Lady of the United States Hillary Rodham Clinton, in which she presents her vision for the children of America. She focuses on the impact individuals and groups outside the family have, for better or worse, on a child's well-being, and advocates for a society which meets all of a child's needs.
ok...
ReplyDeleteuhm what is the point of this?
i hate hilary clinton haha
the issue is never whether you like or not like someone when you are thinking about what's really going on. There are lots of people that I don't like that often say useful things.
ReplyDeleteThe point is that to help a child to grow into being an adult it takes a lot more than only parents. it takes extended family and the communities in which they live.
Yes sorry i was confused with another post so i thought the post was irrelevant. Anyway yes that is right. If a kid grows up in a tough area he himself usually grows up either being tough or trying to be tough. Friends influence kids a great deal almost always for the worse. You are right, there is only so much the parents or parent can do.
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